Thank You
- Sep 6
- 2 min read
Thank You For The Birthday Love
I am so grateful for all the birthday wishes. I have never felt this seen on my birthday. More messages than I can even respond to! I am flooded with love and gratitude.
I grew up in a home where my birthday was usually just another day. No party. No presents. Most years it was a ten dollar check from my grandmother. When I got older it became twenty. One year my dad remembered and took me shopping. I was maybe eight or nine. He gave me money and told me to pick anything I wanted. I came home so happy. My mother tore everything up because he had not paid child support. Many birthdays were like that. She often told me I looked like my father and took it out on me. Those are stories for another day.
On my 13th birthday, after her husband assaulted me, my mother shoved my birthday cake into my face. That memory stayed with me for years. I big trauma I had to come to terms with before I could heal it.
When I became a mom, there was not extra money for my own birthday. I was a single mother and my kids came first. Their birthdays mattered most and I made sure they were celebrated big.
Fast forward to the last couple of decades. My children have made sure my birthday is a celebration. I am so grateful. Along the way I also had kind men in my life who gave me wonderful birthdays. It was not always empty. There were real moments of love.
The truth that hit me this year is simple. The dysfunction did not pass through me. It stopped with me. I went from a child with painful birthdays to a mother who created joyful ones. Now my kids are grown and every birthday in our family is a celebration. That is priceless.
We do not always realize we are breaking patterns in the moment. But we are. Every time you choose a different response than what was done to you, you are breaking a chain. Be proud of that. Little shifts add up to big healing.
I also want to say this. The support along the way may not always be there. But please know it is always here from me. I see you. I am proud of you. And I love you. Those happy birthdays messages mean more to someone than you may ever know. So always be kind and pass along a happy birthday when you can it just might change their life as it has mine.
Thank you for loving me so well this year. Your messages meant more than you know. If you are breaking cycles too, I see you. Just remember you can only do your best! Just always do it! No matter what! Even when you don't want to, just do your best and it will be ok and it is enough!
Share one way you changed the story for your family in the comments. Let’s celebrate each other and the quiet courage it takes to build something healthier.
Be Blessed Beautiful Souls 🌻
The Unique TonyaLe
©️2025TonyaLe
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